Do I Give Up Or Keep Trying? Super long sorry

I’m 23 and he’s 27, I have been in a on and off again relationship with my boyfriend for 6 going on 7 years. I love him to death and I would do anything for him. But about 5 or 6 months ago I broke up with him because I wasn’t happy in the relationship and I tried to explain to him why I wasn’t but nothing ever changed. He ended up dating another woman and it got me jealous that he could get over me so quickly and not try to see if we could fix things. Meanwhile I had also found someone who had captured my interest it was a LDR, but I couldn’t fully commit to that person because my heart was still with my boyfriend. To make a long story short, I broke up with my person and he broke up with his person and we decided to give us another go. He said it would take time for him to love me again like he used to and he wanted for us to be able to be friends as well as boyfriend and girlfriend and I understood that.

But my problem now is that I feel like I’m an outsider in this relationship. We had gotten into a big argument cause I found out that the girl he used to talk to was still calling him and sending him messages (she called while i was there). When he dropped me off at home I asked him to let her know that he is in a relationship that is trying to be fixed so not to call him again. The next time I was there, I waited to see if he would do it and all he told her was that “he’ll call her back”. That got me a little upset because I left it up to him to take care of the problem and I believed he would do it because it truly did bother me. Then when I confronted him about it, he said that he doesn’t know if i still keep in contact with the guy i was talking to, and I told him i wasn’t because there was no need to. He didn’t believe me of course, then he said well he still has u as his #1 friend on myspace, and i told him well that girl still has the picture of you and her son on her profile and he said “there’s nothing i can do about that because its not my profile” and i said well the same goes for me.

So now im going to fast forward a bit. Oh…and I forgot to say that the sex hasn’t been like it used to be. Before i could feel his affections in our sex and it lasted longer and we were more touchy feeling during sex. Now it’s a quick session and thats it, or he’s either not in the mood. Now, since he wasn’t doing what I asked him to do with the girl, I decided to take her number and call myself. I spoke to the girl and let her know that he had a girlfriend and I would like it if she stopped calling. But one night, i got drunk off my bum and sent a stupid message to her asking if they talked. I regret sending it because it made me look insecure and stupid. But the next day, he called me and asked me about it and I told him yea I did all of that and he was mad and blamed everything on me saying it’s my fault for everything and that i started it. But what I don’t understand is why get soooo mad about it? I can see why he would be a little upset because he wouldn’t take my old friends number and call him up but then again if the dude was calling my house and my boyfriend asked me to tell him to stop calling, i would do it.

My real problem is that after trying to tell my BF how i feel because i was starting to feel like i loved him more than he loved me, he went off thinking i felt that way because of the girl, which had nothing to do with it. He brought up what i did about the girl again, and said i make all the decisions in the relationship and that he didn’t care if the relationship kept going or if it ended then hung up. I feel his distance and it gives me chills whenever i talk to him or when im with him. I hardly spend alot of time with him, the last time i was at his house was thanksgiving. I want to spend more time with him but he hardly asks me to come over anymore and he’s always at his lesbian friends house that lives downstairs. I don’t think he’s cheating but i would love to get his affection more and feel included in his life. When I’m at his house, all he does is play video games, i suggest a movie but he says he doesnt want to. When we call it’s always quiet on the phone, i try to bring up anything to make a conversation but he’s always to busy with his video games.

I had asked him if he really meant what he said about not caring about our relationship and he said only half of him said it out of anger, so that means the other half really does feel that way. I don’t know what to do because we have broken up in the past and ended up getting back together, its hard to talk with him because he either doesn’t feel like talking about it or it ends up in an argument.

Please Help.