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September 25, 2011 at 3:17 pm #4396
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ParticipantThere is this really cute boy named *Derek. I asked him to homecoming and he said he would go with me. And for a little while I felt secure; everyone was jelous because I was dating the cutest boy in school. His best friend *Riley asked my best friend *Sonna and his other friend *Nate asked my other friend *Skie. So we were all going to go to homecoming together with some of Derek’s other friends. But then I met *Shaylei. Shaylei had dated Riley for a super long time and then I guess took his virginity and gave him and STD and also cheated on him. So Riley and Derek and all of their friends hated her. But Shaylei really liked Derek and Derek is a really nice person so he would talk to her when she talked to him. This made Riley really mad and they weren’t best friends for a few days. But Derek knew a girl wasn’t worth losing a best friend of seven years over. So Derek and Riley devised a plan to break Shaylei’s heart. Derek would ask Shaylei to homecoming and then actually go with me; cheating on her just like she did to Riley. But of course, the principal found out and told Derek to stop. So Derek told Shaylei he couldn’t take her to homecoming because he was taking me. She was sad but not too sad. So everything was going perfect except that Skie couldnt go with Nate to homecoming because she was home schooled but they were okay with that and it was a week until homecoming. I sat by Derek like I did everyday at lunch but then Shaylei came over and pulled up a chair in between me and Derek. So I dismissed it and started talking to my friend *Oz who was also going with us to homecoming. The next thing I knew when I peeked out of the corner of my eye, Derek and Shaylei were holding hands. I started to get up and leave the table and Derek asked me where I was going so I pretended I forgot to get my homework for math. I went to the bathroom and compared myself to Shaylei. We actually look a lot alike. Same shaggy black hair short and layered, same small almond shaped eyes only hers were green and mine were brown. I guess she listened to the same music as him but I listened to mostly the same music. I tried to forget about it when the bell rang and I went to class but there in the classroom doorway was Derek waiting for me. I got hopeful when he said he wanted to tell me something. But he told me he was going to be “grounded” for homecoming. I smiled, nodded my head, and said it was fine when really I was breaking inside. I knew really it was because he was dating Shaylei. But I also kind of thought Nate was cute and asked him if he would go with me to homecoming. he said yes and I was happy for a moment until Oz also asked me to homecoming and so did *Rob. I told them I couldn’t and they didnt mind too much. But then the next day at school Derek said he might be ungrounded for homecoming. Of course I thought bullcrap and told him I was going with Nathan. So he said Okay but then started telling me I shoud go with Oz because Oz really likes me and stuff. But I said no because I was going with Nate. But then Nate tol me I should go with Oz. So I said okay. and Nathan was just going to hang outside of the school with Skie during homecoming. But really I didnt like Oz. He was like a foot shorter than me. But he kept telling me he liked me so I told him I would go with him as friends. But the more I watched Nate with Skie the more I fell in love with the way he waddled because his pants sagged, and the way his green eyes sparkled when he laughed, and the way his top lip was uneven, and his super deep voice that I like to mimick and make fun of. But Skie liked him so I kept my distance. I was also very confused about Derek. I still liked him and I hated watching him and Shaylei hold hands and hug and kiss. So I let my anger build and wondered why Riley didnt hate him. But the night of homecoming everyone arrived at Riley’s house and Derek was there without Shaylei. “I knew you would wimp out” the boys kept saying. “She was really sad and kept crying” he said. So I guess he was trying to break Shaylei’s heart still and really had gotten grounded. I felt so bad. and I was really sad because I did wish I had just gone to homecoming with him. But I still glared and was angry that he hadn’t told me what was going on with him and Shaylei. at the dance I tried letting the music and sweat pound away my anger but it just swelled. So when we left the dance to go get chocolate milk with everyone. we started bickering a little. “I will slap you.” I said. but he kept bickering with me and when he was close engouh i slammed my hand against his face as hard as I could and everything was silent for a few moments. Then he started yelling cuss words and walked away to the group in front of us. “bitch” i heard “thats why I didnt go with her” i heard. And i thought i should feel better. But I just felt a hell of a lot worse. So about 20 minutes later I apologized and we started talking and joking with everyone again. then when the group started heading back to the highschool. Derek grabbed my hand and told me to walk slower. I did. but we were walking so slow. we were almost stopped. I could tell he wanted the group to get ahead of us. then he turned me around and kissed me. Hard. after a couple minutes I pulled away and leaned my forehead against his. “Are we dating?” I whispered. “Will you stop being mad at me?” He asked. “yes” I answered. “I’ll think about it.” he said.” so we kept walking. and then things just digressed from there. He felt bad because Oz apparently talked about me all the time and I had pretty much been ignoring him the whole time. And Derek felt bad about breaking Shaylei’s heart. Derek asked me how far I had gone with a guy and then said he would want me to go farther. He asked me if I wanted to do a one-night stand with him and I said no. “why?” he asked. “Because I was raised differently?” I guessed. we laughed. But he just kept beating himself up on the inside and told me that kissing me was a mistake. “You really like Shaylei dont you?” I asked he said yes. “So you dont like me?” I pondered. He said he thought I was cool. I laughed and told him my heart wasn’t that breakable. I told him to go out with Shaylei and that I would be fine. I told him that I actually really liked Nate and he said he never thought Nate would be my type. We laughed and I said I was just going to have to find someone else because Nate and Skie liked each other. And I told Derek that I was going to tell Oz that I just didnt like him. Derek kept saying he felt really bad. “I actually feel a lot better” I said. he asked why. “Because everything is less confusing. before I didnt know if you liked me or Shaylei. Or if you were trying to break Shaylei’s heart. But I have everything more understandable now.” He said that was good and we walked in silence the reat of the way. I told him to date Shaylei. and then told Skie to date Nate and I also told Oz that I didnt like him and then left. But Even though I understand everything now. I really do like Nate. but he likes Skie and Skie says she likes him but doesnt like him and doesnt know if she should date him. I dont want Nate to get hurt but I dont want to steal him away from Skie. And Derek doesnt want to tell Haylei that we kissed but I think he should be truthful and see if she will forgive him. What do I do??? PLEASE HELP!!!
~MeowMixSeptember 25, 2011 at 10:41 pm #20097April Masini
KeymasterMy head is spinning from all the different twists and turns in this post! My advice to your question, “What should I do?” is to do nothing. Seriously. One of the big problems of high school drama is that everyone feels the need to get into everyone else’s business. And they do. And drama and problems and miscommunications escalate — exponentially! So if you do nothing for a change, it’s going to be new behavior for you — and it’s going to give you a break from all the emotional craziness.
😉 I hope that helps. Let me know how things go — and I hope you get some peace!
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ParticipantThanks, I actually think that might help 🙂 things will work themselves out.September 28, 2011 at 11:53 am #20164April Masini
KeymasterI’m glad I could help! 😀 -
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